Is anyone else out there struggling with Facebook? I'm not talking about issues with their terms and data ownership or their new interface design. I'm talking about the issue of its crossover between work, friends and family. To be honest, Facebook started as a work tool for me. I graduated from college before there were laptops under 20 lbs. so I didn't take it with me from my days in school. I was already on LinkedIn for years thanks to a friend and colleague in San Francisco, which was designed for work and seemed like a sensible tool to try.
I also was coerced to join Plaxo about two years ago. I just kept getting too many invitations to ignore it, though now it seems to have dropped off the radar. I reluctantly signed up on Naymz (notworthgivingtheurl.com) recently to endorse a friend who is looking for a job, but don't waist your time. What a pain! Facebook came after Plaxo and before Twitter. Again, it started to pick up speed to the point where I couldn't ignore it any longer.
First it was friends that were also people I worked with. Then it was old colleagues and a few tech savvy friends. In the last year, it has become more friends, old high school pals and extended family. I knew it was crossing over when my mother-in-law and my nephew connected to me in the same week. The trouble is, I don't know if I like the mixing of these two worlds. I guess it shows my age, or my sense of privacy, or my fatigue at keeping all this going, but I don't know if I want clients to see all the fun, goofy, or political stuff my friends send me. I also don't know if I want to see their stuff either.
I had a ballet teacher who always used to say "distance lends enchantment". You don't want to see the sweat stains on the ballerina's costume. It kind of breaks the spell. I think distance lends enchantment in the work world of work too. Do you really want to know I worship garden gnomes and am devoted to the "Save the Voles" underground network? Really, do you want to know that? I don't know, maybe you do?